I read somewhere that “the only thing complaining does is it convinces other people that you are not in your own control”.
Why am I saying this? Let me tell you a short story first.
Nirav was a hard-working and an ambitious guy with the sole primary objective to gain excellence in his work. He was passionate towards his work, much loved at workplace, respected by juniors. Above all, Nirav had an adorable and beautiful wife (Shreya) who loved him beyond words.
In Chinese, there is a saying “wu ji bi fan” which means that too much of anything gets worst and not better. This applied in the case of Nirav as his ever growing desire to work hard and achieve success started making him ignorant about his personal life and the tiny beautiful moments of life. Consequently, it took an enormous toll on his relationship Shreya.
Between all this, one fine day came an overseas project on a particular client who was being handled by Nirav since long and Nirav was awfully excited about that project. But as they say the world is not a fairy tale, that project was awarded to someone else in the team. What happened next was devastating to his professional and of course personal life
His wish for that project, aspirations and ambitions took the best out of him and this incident disturbed Nirav to an extent that once a cheerful and high-spirited Nirav turned into a depressed, frightened and an aggressive person. His juniors who once respected him, started living in fear of him at workplace. Shreya stopped talking to him and he became an emotionally wrecked person with no one to share his feelings about.
The appraisals happened at the year end and Nirav suffered significantly in his career because of the above events and consequences which unfolded during the year.
Time heals every wound and so as the time passed, Nirav eventually recovered from his fiasco but that one particular year took away his image which couldn’t be restored to what it was.
Let’s take a moment and think what just happened? What made an otherwise stable guy do such stupid and petty mistake and in the process hurting himself and his loves ones?
Nirav had purest of intentions behind his act. He wanted to grow, he wanted to work and he wanted to set up an example but his approach wasn’t correct. He pressed his ambitions too much and in the process he opened up a can of worms for himself. He lost trust on himself.
Life (sigh..)..It changes man!! Everyone has a role described.. God has destined everyone to move towards a particular future and whatever you do, in the end it would be the choice of almighty. People may conspire against you and situations may become terrible, but you need to hold your nerves and wait for your turn. Remember – everything flips!!
I couldn’t resist to write a line which as per my Mom is a simple message from God to us:
“Tu karta wahi hai jo tu chahta hai,
Hota wahi hai jo main chahta hu
Tu kar wahi jo main chahta hu
Hoga wahi jo tu chahta hai”
For my friends, who do not understand Hindi, it means that God tells us –
“You always do what you want to do,
But you always get what I want you to get,
You start doing what I want you to do,
And Watch, you would get, what you aspire to get”
Nirav, he is my friend. We meet sometimes and laugh at whatever happened. I know somewhere inside, that incident, that one particular year still hurts Nirav but am happy that he has come into light from the shadows and is set upon a right path now.
Trust yourself. Have believe in you and have faith in the God. Always remember are beautiful things awaiting you.
What about you? Share an incident and learnings from this tough lesson called life. Till then…
Keep writing!! Keep blogging!! Stay blessed!! 🙂 🙂